It is only later in life I have begun to understand what was wrong with her.
Dementia is a disease that we have in our lives now.
My father in law has dementia so I have seen the effects of dementia on the people closest who live with this day in, day out. My father in law has had dementia for many years and is now in permanent care. When my husband and I first got together my father in law was still living at home with my mother in law and husband as carers. I know that it was hard for them as the dementia got worse. Unfortunately my father in law wasn't diagnosed early with dementia and there wasn't the support that there is now.
When my father in law went into nursing care my mother in law researched how she could help to keep the memories alive.
She found that the following helped:
- Creating memory boxes filled with pictures, books, photographs and other trinkets that she knew would trigger off a memory for him.
- We bought thick photo frames so that we were able to write our names under the photograph and we labelled other pictures so that he could put names to faces.
- Playing music that he liked helped with both memories and helped calm during times of frustration
- Trigger notes on items helped to connect the word with the item
- Keeping a regular, known routine in place
The carers and families also need the support. Seeing a loved one with dementia is hard and support is paramount to help carers cope with the changes that come with it.
My mother in law is a tower of strength dealing with dementia.
It is because of her that I have decided to become a Dementia Friend. Dementia Friends is an Alzheimer's Society initiative. With the Dementia Friends they want to raise awareness of dementia which will inevitably help people with dementia live a fuller life in the community.
When people are diagnosed early with dementia it is possible for them to continue living an independent life with the support of their families and people in the community. All that is needed is patience and understanding.
Being a Dementia Friend is not about volunteering or fund raising it is simply about raising awareness. The more people that are aware of dementia and the effects, the more dementia suffers will be understood and assisted in their everyday life. To become a Dementia Friend please visit Dementia Friends watch a short video of a lady with an early onset of dementia. In the video she explains how life has changed and how life can be made easier for her. It is a moving video and after watching it you will no doubt want to be a Dementia Friend. Once you have signed up you will receive an information pack, The Little Book of Friendship that is full of helpful hints and tips and a Dementia Friends badge.
It is not just adults that can make a difference. So can children. The Alzheimer's Society have some incredibly useful resources that are available for school to use to educate children. They can be found here. I will be taking a look so that I am able to answer some of Joseph's questions.
I'm working with BritMums and Public Health England alongside the #BritMumsDementiaFriends campaign. I have been compensated for my time. All editorial and opinions are my own. Visit the Dementia Friends site here for more information and resources about coping with dementia among family and friends.